Dear Athena,
as promised, here comes my success story. It is a bit of a different one than your typical success stories. And I have even trouble writing it down because I have changed SO MUCH that I do not even really remember the old version of me and of the story.
First of all, thank you again for being the way you are. I stumbled into manifestation – like I feel most of us do, when I was in love with someone who did not reciprocate it (which now I know wasn’t even the case, he did love me but had his own issues). I was not successful in manifesting that SP. I was so devastated. This was when I also discovered your channel. Eventually, there came another SP. And here I was again – back to manifestation and back to trying to “get someone (to do something)”. So I booked a call with you.
Some background about this SP: He approached ME first and was into me and he had two of the characteristics that I really want in a man: he is into entrepreneurship, psychology and dancing plus he is from the town where I am from. I still remember I dreamed of him before we talked, which is insane (but happens a lot for me). And I thought this was a sign. And I remember my thoughts very vividly when we met and started “having a thing”. I thought: He is not for me. BUT since he shared my passions and was such a kind (and attractive!) guy, I somehow dismissed my very first intuition and thought I wanted him. I started chasing him (mentally). He planned to go on a big trip and he asked me to come along. Which is funny, because that is exactly what I thought would happen. So I thought: Maybe this time it is meant to be. Looking back, I realize how much I tried to change myself to be perfect for him. And looking back even further I realize that I had always done that before getting into a relationship with someone. All my relationships were beautiful and with very kind men, but honestly I think I was never FULLY in love. I loved all my ex-boyfriends for their warm and amazing personalities and the way they treated me. But the dating phase always looked like this: Me chasing. Finally getting together, me being exhausted from all the chasing. Losing interest.
Anyways, let’s move on with the story. So I joined this guy on the trip and found out he had something with a girl he met there (one-time-thing, wouldn’t even call it 3P). But it hurt SO MUCH. It went against what I had dreamed of and what I thought this trip might be. My initial intuition would have been: I get over it and pretend like nothing is wrong and make him love me. I know I can do that because I have done it before. But this time, I stopped myself: I deserve to share how I feel and I DESERVE better. And I am sure this line of thinking was a result of many of your videos and the fact that I started self-hypnosis to feel safe in love and to learn I deserve great love. I told my friends about the situation and all of them said: Leave, travel on your own. But it did not feel right. In fact: he didn’t do anything wrong because he always said we are “just friends” (obviously I did not believe him because he invited me to join his trip) and it felt like punishing him. And I knew if I left the situation it would have felt like a loss. Like another thing that didn’t work out after the other SP situation that hurt so much. So I actively decided, I want to turn it into a win. And let me tell you – it has been the biggest win for me!
I wanted to see WHY he was not interested in me and also be completely myself because I realized I have been acting a little different and putting blinders on, just as I was always used to. Well, long story short: I did end up seeing why I had this first intuition and that we are not a good fit. EVEN though I really liked him and he is an amazing person. From the way I am writing you can probably not even tell how much I was into him. It honestly feels like a different person now. Once I started seeing him for the way he is and seeing me for the way I am and dropping the fear of not being able to find someone exactly right for me, I realized we can be very good friends. I left the country and flew back home very proud. We are good friends now and I know I can trust and call him anytime.
Our coaching call was somewhat in the middle of all of this and I remember how calm you were and you recommended I make a list of what I want in a partner, how I want to feel and what it should be like in much detail. All other coaches I talked to over the past years when trying to “get someone” always taught me techniques and never questioned my intention in the first place. You even told me “I did not think that you really wanted him” and you were right. Anyways, I really loved your energy and listening to you and working with you has been a game changer for me.
So this is a different kind of SP Success story – without the SP happy end. But honestly, I am so focused on myself right now. I love working on my own goals (especially my business and my sports). I even started dating again, just for fun. And I feel how much I have changed: I do not get attached to anyone instantly anymore. I am VERY excited for what’s to come and meeting my real SP some time in the future. I am enjoying my life SO much and chasing my dreams. And that, to me, feels like the biggest win.
Thank you so much for your work, Athena.
Greetings from Germany,